Introduction
The Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary defines worry as
to keep thinking about unpleasant things that might happen or about problems
that you have. Many authors have had mentioned about this subject in their
books, some examples are given, as per below.
Napoleon Hill (1883 – 1970), recognized as the all-time
American best selling motivational author, once said: “If you are worried or
afraid of anything, there is something in your mental attitude that needs
correction. Unless you control worry, one day you will discover that it
controls you”.
Jeffrey
J. Mayer in this book entitled “Success is a Journey” (1999) wrote that worry
is one of the six symptoms of fear. In this case, you feel anxious, you’re
uneasy, and you are not sure whether you had made the right decision.
Georgette
“Zeta” Galas in her book entitled “How to Break Through Invisible Barriers”
(1999), wrote: “When we have a desire and hold on too tight out of fear we may
lose it, the end result will surely be anguish. When we know our true selves,
worry, doubt and fear will dissolve”.
A
good advice on methods of healthy living with regards to worry can be found in
the book entitled “The Everything Time Management Book” by Bob Adams (2001). He
simply said: “Don’t worry about things that are beyond your control. Let go.
Unnecessary worry only creates unnecessary anxiety. You are also likely to
adopt an overall feeling of helplessness, which may spill over into your other
activities”.
It
is worthwhile to mention it here as what was written by Linda R. Dominguez in
her book entitled “How to Shine at Work” (2003). She wrote that part of turning
problems into opportunities is to recognize that we always have a choice. We
can choose to be angry, we can choose to worry, or we can choose to be
thoughtful and respond in a way that moves us forward. It is up to us.
Our
fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.
- Dale Carnegie
To learn how to face worry, the following two worry-related
rules adapted from “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”, first published by
Dale Carnegie in 1944, can be used as evergreen examples.
In the early days, Carnegie made his living by teaching
adult classes in night schools in New
York. He realized that one of the biggest problems of
these adults was worry. He wrote his book by reading what the philosophers of
all ages have said about worry. He also read hundreds of biographies, all the
way from Confucius to Churchill. According to him, we won’t find anything new
in his book, but we will find much that is not generally being applied in our
daily life.
Rule #1: When fate
hands us a lemon, let’s try to make lemonade.
A lady followed her army husband who was stationed at an Army training camp near Mojave Desert, in California. The husband was ordered out to maneuvers in the desert, and she was in a tiny shack alone.
The
heat was unbearable --- 125 degrees in the shade of a cactus. Not a soul to talk
to. The wind blew incessantly, and all the food she ate, and the very air she
breathed, were filled with sand, sand, sand! She wrote to her father, telling
him that she was going home as she couldn’t stand the situation one minute
longer.
Her
father answered her letter with just two lines --- two lines that completely
altered her life:
Two men looked out
from prison bars,
One saw the mud, the
other saw the stars.
Her
attitude changed after receiving her father’s reply. She would look for the stars. She even wrote
a book under the title Bright Ramparts …she had looked out of her
self-created prison and found the stars.
Rule #2:
Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry
This
was a story of an insurance man. When he first started selling insurance, he
was filled with a boundless enthusiasm and love for his work. Then something
happened. He became so discouraged that he despised his work and thought of
giving it up. Then on one Saturday morning, he sat down and tried to get at the
root of his worries. He began asking himself following questions:
a)
What
was the problem?
He
was not getting high enough returns for the staggering amount of telephone
calls that he made.
b)
What
was the cause of the problem?
He
did pretty well at selling a prospect, until the moment came for closing a
sale. Then the customer would say, “Well, I’ll think it over, Mister. Come and
see me again”. The time wasted on these follow-up calls that was causing his
depression.
c)
What
were all possible solutions?
He
checked his record book for the last twelve months and studied the figures
carefully. He made an astounding discovery! He discovered that 70% of his sales
had been closed at the very first interview! Another 23% of his sales had been
closed on the second interview. And another 7% had been closed on those third,
fourth, fifth, etc., interviews. He came to the conclusion that he was wasting
fully one half of his working day on a part of his business which was
responsible for only seven per cent of his sales!
d)
What
was the best solution?
He
made a quick decision that he would immediately cut all visits beyond the
second interview, and spent the extra time building up new prospects.
Conclusion
As
stated by Bob Adams: “Constant worry leads to complications in life. Talk it
out and make yourself believe that worry will not help anything; it will only
harm. The fewer worries you have, the simpler life will seem”.
The writer has his own motto: worry less about what others think, say and do.
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